Mirror, Mirror

What does a three year old child see when looking in the mirror? “Me!”

  • There is a sense of awe and wonder about the image in the mirror. “That’s me!”
  • It is fascinating to watch the image move and change expressions.
  • There are great conversations held with the child in the mirror.  “Such a grand playmate!”
  • “Aren’t I awesome!”

 

What does a nine year old child see when looking in the mirror? “Not enough.”

A bit of the awe and wonder remains but it is quickly squelched by the ever present feeling of “I am ok, but I am not enough.”

  • I am not smart enough.
  • I am not athletic enough.
  • I am not popular enough.
  • I am not pretty / handsome enough.
  • Everyone is more than I am.

 

What does a teenager see when looking in the mirror? “I don’t matter.”

  • No one cares about me.
  • No one cares if I live or die.
  • No one cares if I show up for class.
  • No one cares to ask me to the prom.
  • No one cares enough about me to give me their time and attention, therefore I must not be worth caring about.

'Gadget,' a long-haired Chihuahua looking in mirror

What does a 21 year old adult see when looking in the mirror?  “I am afraid.”

  • I am afraid of the future.
  • I am afraid of the unknown.
  • I am afraid of making mistakes.
  • I am afraid to fail.
  • I am afraid I may not be good enough to make it – whatever “it” is.

 

What does a 45 year old adult see when looking in the mirror? “Never.”

  • I am never going to get out of debt.
  • I am never going to amount to much.
  • I am never going to get ahead.
  • I am never going to achieve my goals.
  • I am never going to, so I might as well settle for less.

old beagle looking in mirror

What does a 60 year old adult see when looking in the mirror? “Too late.”

  • It is too late to go after my dreams.
  • It is too late to fix my relationships.
  • It is too late to fix my finances.
  • It is too late to take care of my health.
  • I should’a, could’a, would’a.

Remember, the mirror only reflects our beliefs, limiting or otherwise.

Help each other see a better reflection by acting as a mirror for others.  Reflect the beauty, strength, value, and heart of each person you encounter.

Help them see themselves through kind eyes.

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Celebrate Wins

Celebrate Wins (written for a veterinary clinic, but applies to all)

When someone you work with experiences a success, what do you do? Do you notice? Do you give a brief “good job” and quickly move on? Do you even acknowledge the win or do you treat it as nothing less than what is required of them?

In your busy, busy day, it is very easy to be so focused on the tasks at hand you fail to notice or acknowledge what has been accomplished. But, if you ignore the successes of your coworkers, you miss a critical opportunity to inspire them onto further successes. And you miss the opportunity to strengthen the team.

Celebrate wins. When a coworker places an IV catheter in a difficult vein, sincerely acknowledge the person. When the boss manages to get the additional space or equipment you requested, celebrate his efforts and success. When the receptionist who has difficulty working with challenging clients successfully defuses an irate client, celebrate his efforts. When a coworker completes her night courses and achieves her degree, celebrate.

Celebrating wins does several important things for you and your team:

Celebrating wins reminds your team to keep striving even when things are at the most challenging. Those crazy days where the work never stops, the clients are all crazy, and the clinic is short-handed.

Celebrating wins reminds your team they are working for a winning organization. People want to work for a winning team.

Celebrating wins forces you and your team to focus on the positive rather than the negative.

Celebrating wins must be done in a timely fashion. The annual Employee Appreciation BBQ isn’t enough if it is the only recognition given. Celebrate events at the time they happen. Acknowledge the successes of others within 24 hours of the event.

Celebrating wins promotes a healthy team atmosphere and this results in a great working environment! Who will you celebrate today?